Welcome back!  I hope you all have had an amazing 2 weeks!  We are still in January, January 2020….2020 the year for manifesting your desires and purpose.  So in alignment with that, I’m going to talk to you about self validation.  How do we draw the line between self validation/external validation , appropriate social norms, and contributing to the world your authentic best self?  How do we do that?  I think this is something we all grapple with from time to time.  Why?  We grapple with this because we want acceptance, we want to be beautiful, we want to be smart, we want to be contributors.  We worry that what we are contributing isn’t being valued. So what do we do….we look outside of ourselves to get validation that we are doing this whole thing  the right way.  There are times when this might be appropriate.  Perhaps you might go the board members when making big decisions (that tight trusted team of people you keep in your personal arsenal to call upon when needing to bounce ideas or weigh decisions).  You might also need to check-in to make certain that you aren’t unintentionally hurting the feelings of a friend in a way that isn’t constructive or for their betterment.  Other than that, seeking external validation can be dangerous for you and for all of us.  Why do I say this?  I say this because, if YOU don’t like YOU….than what does it matter what “THEY” like?  YOU don’t like it!  And contrary to that, if YOU like it and LOVE it and it makes you feel good, then you are winning!  Also, if we’re constantly conforming, looking like everyone else, thinking like everyone else, saying what everyone else is saying, then we stop growing as a culture.  We’re failing mankind by not promoting our own individuality and unique contributions.  What are the major pitfalls and how can we protect ourselves?

• Social Media
• Self-reflection
• Acceptance
• Exposure
• Time

As we move into 2020 and throughout this upcoming year, ask yourself, what can I do better for myself this year?  How can I be better?  Take the time for self-development and self improvement.  You won’t regret it.  Bless us with your gifts! 

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